"I Decided Something Had To Change" - Featured Beach Boudoir Session- MIDTOWN MANHATTAN | UPPER EAST SIDE | HUDSON SQUARE | CENTRE ISLAND | NEW YORK BOUDOIR PHOTOGRAPHER
Let’s talk beauty.
When you hear that word,
what pops into your head?
What I’m wondering is whether or not it was YOU, naturally as you are? If so, that is a truly beautiful thing. Unfortunately, if you’re like the majority of women, the image of your naked body in the mirror was probably the furthest thing from your mind. But before you beat yourself up over this, it’s TOTALLY not your fault - we’re all socialized to feel inadequate, and it SUCKS.
Basically, if you don’t live under a rock, chances are that your perception of what is and isn’t beautiful has been influenced, and not in a good way. Truth is, our outlook on beauty and femininity is a product of an industry that profits handsomely from the feelings of inadequacy in women of all shapes and sizes. It’s easy to think that most people think skinny = good and curvy = bad, right? But if you dig a little deeper, it’s so much more than that. We as women are taught to think that our cheekbones should be high, our jawlines defined, our lips full, our collarbones visible (but not too skinny that we appear unhealthy), our eyes large and lashes long, our breasts full enough to fill at least an ‘average’ sized bra, but not too big that you can’t comfortably wear that cute new bralette, our waists tiny, our hips wide enough to seem ‘soft’ and ‘feminine,’ but not too wide (HELLO, what does that even MEAN?!).
When we lay it all out, doesn’t it all seem ridiculous? So now that they have full figured and thin women feeling like there’s at least one thing keeping them from being truly beautiful by the standards of the industry that seems to define beauty itself, they start creating and marketing temporary solutions:
Push up bras.
Now, I’m TOTALLY not anti-makeup. I wear it regularly and I love it! But the baggage that comes along with that, which often goes untreated is the fear of being average or even worse: inadequate without it. Everyday makeup wear becomes less about enhancing what we’ve already got going on, and more about covering up what we don’t love about ourselves. It becomes about the fear of facing and affirming the natural beauty of the body you’re rocking. Let’s face it: there’s nothing wrong with wanting to give ‘the girls’ a little lift either, but something tells me the Add-2-Cup-Sizes wasn’t just about enhancement. Sure, when you have it on, you feel like the bangin'-est-bitch in the room! But when you take it off, what are you left with? How do you feel when the bra comes off and what’s left is YOU?
every woman deserves to choose herself.
Just the way she is.
Obviously, there’s nothing wrong with your contour and hair dyes (we all know I wasn’t born with purple hair, so if anyone gets it, it’s ME). But think about it for a moment…what if once you washed off your face at the end of a long day, you were in love with the woman you saw looking back? What if once you stripped down and got into your comfy clothes, you felt more comfortable without that organ smushing shaper on? What if instead of ‘enhancing’ the body you’re rockin’ naturally, you embraced and celebrated it?
This week’s blog babe did just that.
She stripped off the makeup and chose herself.
“Self Love is not something that we as women are taught. In fact, we are beaten down from the very beginning and taught to hate ourselves. I’ve always outwardly come across as being very confident, and having self esteem. While I exude the total package, it’s never been the case on the inside. I’ve always struggled mentally and physically with my health. I decided something had to change.
Brittnie has helped me see myself in a new light.
After my boudoir session with Brittnie, I’m able to look in the mirror and say that I’M SEXY. So much of that is because of this session, without hair and makeup! It’s amazing that with her guidance, I felt like a supermodel! Between the laughs between shots, to the best booty touch you’ve ever done, Brittnie has this ability to show you your body in a new way, even if you haven’t ever felt brave enough to truly see it.”